Question Your Own Beliefs
I have done a lot of CPD over the years, learning about nutrition, biomechanics, glute training, program design, business and marketing...
But the last year the majority of my interest has been focussed on human psychology, behaviour and the mind.
It is easy to see that none of the former are leanable or applicable without the mind.
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."
"Just stop thinking negative and start thinking positive."
"Love yourself, be happy with what/who you are."
Blah, blah, blah... easier said than done, pal.
Many people can live their whole lives with certain beliefs about themselves that aren't true. Everytime they find a happy medium, or maybe achieve something - the ego will pop up and tell them the opposite.
Instead of enjoying the reward of the earning the carrot, they just chose to constantly whip themselves.
Can this be reversed?
First of all, I would like to state I am not qualified in this field. I just talk from personal experience with work I have done on myself with a mentor over the past year.
For the majority of my life, I have for the large part, considered myself guilty.
One example; I have considered myself guilty and a fraud for taking money from people to train them.
Everytime I have felt as though my business and reputation has grown, my ego has reminded me that I am essentially, a bad person.
Well, it stems back much further than my PT career. Without much detail, way back through my teens and into my childhood when I had similar feelings with different experiences. Nothing 'traumatising', just events where maybe somebody said something in the playground and it just stuck with me.
Looking at this from the outside, and having many conversations and guidance - I realise I am just innocent.
I charge a fee equal to what I believe I provide as a service.
People don't complain and are happy to pay, even when I have adjusted the pricing. In fact, many actually refer me to people they care about, and proudly support and fly the flag for what I do.
Yes, I worry a lot about how I can help people even more. But sometimes people don't want more, they are happy and actually believe I over-deliver. Their trust is undeniable.
So whenever I have these feelings of guilt (which are almost daily, by the way), I breathe and just check-in with myself.
Why am I feeling this way?
What do I believe about myself?
What is the truth?
I'm not sure where I am going with this email, it was just on my mind this morning after running through the process with myself.
So to answer the above question, can it be reversed?
I think yes and no.
Our ego's will always try to remind us of feelings like this and false beliefs, trying to sabotage us at any given turn.
But, can we question that? Can we question our own beliefs about ourselves?